The Surprising Benefits of Small Dildos: Why Size Isn’t Everything

When it comes to choosing the right dildo, we at Naughty North always tell folks to focus on size - but maybe not in the way you think. Small dildos - dildos that are closer to an average penis size or smaller - are actually less common than you may think and it is easy to accidentally purchase something you find too big or uncomfortable for your body. That’s why we have created this guide to our fantastic selection of thin, mini, and skinny dildos. You’re welcome.

Dildos come in all sizes, but the philosophy of many sex toy manufacturers is ‘bigger is better,’ which means that, although the average size of an erect penis is about 5 inches, the average dildo on the market is usually 7 inches and up. That’s a big difference! Of course, porn doesn’t help matters any with many performers wielding some truly massive specimens. 

But, small dildos are out there when you know where to look - which, of course, we do! Whether you're a beginner, exploring new sensations, or just prefer a gentler experience, small dildos can be a perfect fit (pun intended!).  Let’s take a look at the wide range of benefits a small dildo can bring and at some of our excellent selection.

A Quick Word on How to Read Dildo Sizing

Betty’s has long included a Guide to Dildo Size as well as detailed measurements on each product page. Here are some terms you’re going to want to know:

Length = Overall Length: The measurement from the tip down to the bottom of the suction cup, handle or base. 

Insertable Length = What you can put in your body: The measurement without the unusable parts like suction cups or bases

Width = The measurement across the widest usable part of the shaft

Girth = Circumference: The measurement circling the widest usable part of the shaft

As a baseline, the average erect penis is 5.17 inches long and 4.59 inches in girth (circumference) or about 1.5 inches in width. All of the dildos measuring 5.5 inches of insertable length and under  at Betty’s Toy Box are found in our Beginner Dildo category.

It is standard to list a dildo’s overall size in the product title. For example Colours Realistic 7 Inch Silicone Suction Cup Dildo - Vanilla may seem like it will be huge, but in fact the insertable length is only 5.25 inches - completely average. Don’t let the overall size fool you. Most dildos contain bases that make up a good couple of inches of unusable space.

Now that we know how to read a product description, let’s get back to singing the praises of the smaller dildo!

1. Great for Beginners

A Comfortable Starting Point

If you’re new to using dildos or just beginning your journey with penetration, starting small can make a world of difference. A mini dildo or thin dildo offers a non-intimidating way to explore what feels good, without the discomfort or pressure of larger toys. 

Reduces Anxiety Around Penetration

Many people—regardless of gender—experience anxiety when it comes to inserting anything into the body. Starting with a small dildo can help you ease into the experience, building confidence and comfort along the way.

A Softer Touch

Small dildo can be much softer than a vibrator and can often bend in ways that most vibrators can’t. Look for materials like ‘liquid silicone’ to give you that comfortable squish that not only feels more realistic but makes insertion much easier.

2. Ideal for Warm-Ups

Prepping for Bigger Toys or Play

Think of small dildos like stretching before a workout. They’re perfect for warming up your body before using larger toys or engaging in more intense sexual activity. A small flesh colored dildo can help gradually loosen the muscles and prepare your body in a gentle, natural way.

3. Discreet and Travel-Friendly

Easy to Hide, Easy to Carry

One of the major perks of mini dildos is their portability. They're discreet, lightweight, and often small enough to tuck into a travel bag or nightstand drawer without taking up much space—or raising eyebrows.

Great for Travel Play

Whether you're heading on vacation or just want to take your favorite toy to a partner’s place, a small dildo is a perfect travel companion.

4. More Control and Precision

Perfect for Targeted Stimulation

Smaller dildos allow for more control during use. Because of their size, it's easier to experiment with angles and pressure, making them perfect for targeting specific erogenous zones like the G-spot or prostate.

Ideal for Partner Play

For couples, small and thin dildos can be great for foreplay, pegging, or mutual exploration. Their size makes them less intimidating and easier to introduce into partnered experiences.

5. Gentle on the Body

Less Strain, More Pleasure

Some people have medical conditions, past trauma, or simply don’t enjoy the sensation of deep or wide penetration. A small dildo offers a gentler, more manageable way to experience pleasure without discomfort.

Suitable for All Genders

Regardless of anatomy, smaller dildos are incredibly versatile. Whether you’re using them vaginally or anally, their size makes them safe and comfortable for most users, especially when paired with lube.

6. Realistic Options Available

Small, Yet Lifelike

Just because it’s small doesn’t mean it can’t feel real. Many small flesh colored dildos are designed with realistic textures, veins, and details that mimic the feel of a real penis—just in a more compact size.

Conclusion: Small Dildos, Big Pleasure

Don’t underestimate the power of a mini dildo or thin dildo. These toys are often underrated, but they offer an accessible, pleasurable, and versatile experience for users of all levels. Whether you’re new to sex toys or just looking for a gentler touch, a small dildo might just become your new favorite companion.

Remember: pleasure isn’t about size—it’s about what feels right for you.

You can visit our collection of Small Dildos at the link below.