Settle in and get comfortable, it’s time to learn about the G-spot. This guide is designed to help you explore with curiosity and confidence, whether you’re seeking new sensations or simply want to understand your body better. And remember, not everyone experiences orgasm the same way. Research shows that up to 75% of people with vulvas need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, so take the pressure off. Approach this exploration as an opportunity to learn, discover, and enjoy what feels good to you.

WHAT IS THE G-SPOT?

The g-spot is a short-form for the Gräfenberg spot, named for the gynecologist who first made the discovery. It is in an area called the urethral sponge which can be sexually responsive. It is a bundle of nerves located about 1-3 inches into your vagina along the inner wall (out towards your belly button) – about halfway between your vaginal opening and cervix.

WHAT DOES THE G-SPOT FEEL LIKE?

Many say it feels a bit rough, bumpy, or ridged, like the surface of a walnut. Others say pressing on it feels like pressing on the tip of your nose. It should be about 1 inch in diameter and will feel rougher than the rest of your vaginal wall. If you are turned on when you are searching, it may be easier to find, since it can become larger with arousal.

THE BEST WAY TO FIND THE G-SPOT

I am going to recommend that your first quest for the g-spot be a solo mission. If you can find it on your own, then you can direct a partner to get in on the action later. It is also very important to already be aroused when you start to explore because this will engorge your g-spot and make it easier to find.

When you’re ready, lay on your back and plant your feet with your knees up. Use two fingers and insert them into your vagina palm up. This will allow you to crook your fingers towards your belly button in a come-hither motion that seems to be quite effective in g-spot searching.

HOW WILL I KNOW IF I’VE FOUND IT?

If you’re having trouble finding the right spot with your fingers, or can’t identify an area that feels different to the touch, don’t get frustrated. The g-spot responds well to firm, steady pressure so you may want to reach for a toy. Some like vibration, some don’t, but maybe start with a g-spot curved vibrator turned off and see where it gets you first before adding vibration.

Many women describe g-spot stimulation as feeling the need to pee and this stops them from going any further. This is because you’re stimulating an area that is part of the urethral sponge. All the better reason to explore alone at first and empty your bladder before starting out. If you are uncomfortable with the feeling, you are going to clench your PC muscles (the ones you clench to stop from peeing) and that is the exact opposite of what you’re looking for. Ride the feeling, and keep applying firm pressure to the spot that feels the best. Put a towel under you if you’re worried and just see what happens.

IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED…

Try try again. Or don’t. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU if you can’t climax through g-spot stimulation. Not every women likes the feel of having her g-spot stimulated and not every woman is sexually responsive in that way. All orgasms are great, no matter how you have them.

If you do want to try again, stay tuned for an upcoming article on our favorite g-spot toys here at Naughty North.