How to Find the Perfect Strap-on to Please Both of You

You may think of strap-ons as being on the more extreme end of bedroom play, but nothing can be further from the truth. Strap-ons come in all kinds of shapes and sizes and have helped couples not just enhance but sometimes save their sex lives. Read on to learn how to pick the perfect strap-on for your needs. 

Vaginal or Anal Penetration (Pegging)

•  The only limit here is your imagination. There are many dildo and harness sets available for first timers, or you can choose to buy each piece separately to get the perfect combo for yourself and your partner. 
• Carefully read the description of the dildo size if you are buying a set to avoid purchasing something too big (or too small!)
• To get the most bang for your buck, opt for a set that allows the dildo to be used separately from the harness as well.

Some Naughty North Staff Favourites for Vaginal or Anal Penetration (click the title to visit the product)

• ANAL EXPLORER STRAP-ON KIT WITH 2 SILICONE DILDOS

• HARNESS ME THUMPER STRAP-ON BEGINNERS VIBRATING DILDO & HARNESS

• DIVINE DIVA PLUS SIZE STRAP-ON HARNESS - BLACK, Paired with the COLOURS DUAL DENSITY 5 INCH SILICONE DILDO - MILK CHOCOLATE

Erectile Dysfunction or Premature Ejaculation

• Look for a hollow dildo and harness set specifically made to be worn by a person who has a penis
• The harness should have straps that come down on either side of the testicles for a more comfortable fit
• The hollow dildo should be firm enough to encase a flaccid or semi-erect penis 
• Carefully consider the size of the dildo and the comfort of your partner since hollow dildos are firm and often larger than average
• If you want something smaller or softer, look for a harness and dildo that can sit higher on your pelvis and allow your penis and testicles to hang beneath. You will also need to look for straps that come down on either side of your penis and testicles, then between your legs.

Some Naughty North Staff Favourites for Erectile Dysfunction or Premature Ejaculation (click the title to visit the product)

• EVERLASTER STUD 6.5 INCH HOLLOW STRAP ON DILDO & HARNESS SET - VANILLA

• FETISH FANTASY SERIES VIBRATING 6 INCH HOLLOW RECHARGEABLE STRAP-ON WITH REMOTE - VANILLA

Experimenting with a larger size

• Even is you don’t have a penis, we recommend wearing a hollow dildo because they can be a lot lighter than the heavier, full-sized dildos. The downside of this is that hollows are also more rigid than a standard dildo so think about what your partner will enjoy.

Some Naughty North Staff Favourites for Larger dildo and harness pairings (click the title to visit the product)

• HER ROYAL HARNESS™ THE REGAL EMPRESS STRAP-ON HARNESS - RED Paired with REAL SUPPLE POSEABLE 8.25 INCH SILICONE DILDO - CHOCOLATE

• NEXUS LENNOX 8 INCH HOLLOW VIBRATING SILICONE SHEATH DILDO - EMERALD Paired with LUSH PURPLE VELVET ADJUSTABLE STRAP-ON HARNESS

CHOOSING A HARNESS

Whether buying separately or in a set, there are a few things you should look for in your strap-on harness

• Is it sturdy enough to hold my chosen dildo? This is particularly important if you mix and match since a thinner cloth harness will generally not support a large, heavy dildo
• Does the o-ring in the harness fit my chosen dildo? Again, something to consider if your dildo is on the larger size
• Do the leg straps to under the bum cheeks or up the middle like a thong? This is an important consideration for anybody who hates that thong feeling. 
• Will the harness fit my body? Measurements are always listed on the product page, and you should assume a harness will sit on your lower waist or hips, so measure accordingly. 
• Is the harness adjustable? Often leg and hip straps can be adjusted, which is great for a beginner who is not sure of how a harness will fit. 

COMMUNICATE AND LUBRICATE

Whenever you embark on strap-on play make sure to communicate with your partner before, during, and after. It takes practice to get the correct angles and thrust to please both of you while wearing a harness. Take it slowly and use tons of good quality lubricant whenever you indulge in strap-on play, whether it's vaginal or anal. This will allow the receiver to feel more comfortable and will give the dildo a more natural glide. Check out our range of lubrication that you can use and make sure to add it to your cart!

And, of course, if you want to find that perfect strap-on, click the image below to shop!