Naughty North's Guide to Stimulation and Delay Gels: When, Why, and How to Use Them

Stimulation and delay gels, creams, and lotions can add plenty of excitement in the bedroom, but they’re more than just fun. They can also be helpful tools for people experiencing erectile difficulties, premature ejaculation, lower arousal, or reduced natural lubrication. Let’s explore how they work and how to use them safely for the best possible experience.

WHAT IS A STIMULATION GEL?

These gels and creams are designed specifically for the clitoris to encourage increased blood flow, which can enhance sensitivity, engorgement, and overall stimulation. While they aren’t lubricants themselves, they may support natural lubrication by boosting arousal.

You will see ingredients like capsaicin (which gives peppers their heat), menthol, niacin, arginine, and natural essential oils such as wintergreen, cinnamon, clove, and peppermint.  Read the descriptions and ingredient lists carefully because each product is slightly different. Kama Sutra Intensify Warming Female Arousal Gel will give you a warming sensation, while Lust Pjur Orgasm Arousal Gel gives a buzzing, vibrating sensation. If you are looking for something gentler, you can try Dame Lickable Arousal Serum  which is PH balanced and formulated with fewer active ingredients for folks who are extremely sensitive. If you’re looking for a completely natural choice, Sliquid Organics Stimulating O Gel has no parabens or glycerin and is made of organic, natural ingredients. All the products we carry at Naughty North are body-safe and come from the very best manufacturers in the business of pleasure.

WHAT IS A DELAY GEL?

Delay gels are specifically meant for the penis and to delay ejaculation so that they can be an excellent tool for folks with premature ejaculation. They are a topical anesthetic that will help to slightly and temporarily desensitize the nerve endings of the penis. The most common delay gel ingredient is benzocaine, the active ingredient in many topical gels for oral ulcers. Our most popular delay gel is Take It Slow Ejaculation Delay Gel.

PROCEED WITH CAUTION

1. Before using, do a patch test on the inside of your elbow and wait a few hours to gauge reactions. Don't proceed with the product if your skin turns red or you have a burning sensation.
2. Use the product alone the first time so you can see how your clitoris or penis reacts to the ingredients
3. Use VERY LITTLE the first time. The skin of your intimate areas is extremely sensitive and may react differently than your patch test. It is better to want to add more than frantically trying to rub off excess

HOW TO USE A STIMULATION GEL

These gels and creams are intended for external use on the clitoris — including the top, sides, and around the hood. Many begin working quickly, creating a warming or cooling sensation. If you don’t notice effects right away, wait a few minutes and gently massage the area before applying more. Some ingredients take a little longer to activate, so it’s best to go slowly to avoid using too much.

You can safely reapply later if the sensation starts to fade. Clitoral stimulating gels and creams should never be used internally in the vagina or anus.

HOW TO USE A DELAY GEL

Delay gels should be applied about 5 to 15 minutes before sexual activity, depending on the specific product instructions. It’s important to take precautions before first use (see Proceed with Caution above) so you understand how your body responds to the ingredients. Since these products are often used before penetration, it’s also wise to test a small amount on your partner’s skin.

Start with the minimum recommended amount and gently massage it into the shaft and head of the penis. Allow the product to fully absorb before engaging in penetrative sex.